Inspiring Women With Krystal Tomlinson

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Wednesday, 22 February 2017 11365 Views 1 Comments
Inspiring Women With Krystal Tomlinson

Nirvana’s Inspiring Women Series will be taking a look into the lives of a few of Jamaica most inspiring and empowering women. Women that are stylish, successful, impactful and fabulous in their own right.

This week we’ll be speaking to the brains and beauty that is Krystal Tomlinson. This vibrant media personality was the winner of the JCDC Festival Queen competition in 2013. Krystal is the Digicel Foundation Public Relations & Engagement Manager, Founder of Five Dollar Forum, Motivational Speaker and host of TVJ’s E-Prime and Nyammings.

 

Nirvana: Is there anything in life that motivates you?

Krystal: I am motivated certainly by my circumstances. I am not where I want to die. So when I get to a place where I’m comfortable dying, like I’ve worked enough, then I’ll shift gears. But right now, I move as fast as I do, doing as many things as I do because I don’t want to die as, this as my legacy. I know that there’s more that I want to do. That’s my motivation!

Nirvana: Who are the women that inspire you?

Krystal: My mother, definitely. We live in a country where women play a very seminal role in the lives of their children, and my mother is no different. Her own start was very humble and very challenging because she is a single parent and has had no support from my father in raising my brother and I. It was very matriarchal – the way I was raised. I had my mom, both grandmothers, aunts and one uncle who sort of broke the femininity in the household. But those are the women that inspire me.

Nirvana: What is your personal mantra or quote you live by?

Krystal: I have several but the one I’m working with for 2017 is that “I’m here on purpose and all that I do must be underscored by a sense of purpose.” If I’m working out, there has to be a purpose behind it. The relationships I’ve chosen to nurture this year, I’ve purposefully selected who those people are. Just to make sure that there is some guiding direction with these different things in my life.

Nirvana: How important is it for women to be independent and self-sufficient?

Krystal: I think every human being has to get to a point of self-sufficiency. To meet your very basic needs, every individual needs to be able to do that for themselves. Women particularly, because we are taught to rely on all sort of systems to “get us there” (our parents, our family, a man, etc). It’s important to at least be able to secure yourself and your own interest as a human being.

One of the things a colleague of mine shared with me is when you’re saving, as a young woman, make sure you have 3 months living expenses in the bank. That’s purposeful saving; so in case anything should happen, you’ll be okay till you get back on your feet. It’s those types of conversations about life goals and planning, that I try to have with people, but women specifically.

Nirvana: Is it hard balancing your professional and personal life?

Krystal: It’s not a difficult thing to balance, it’s just about allocating the time to whatever matters. My personal relationship matters a lot; so I schedule date nights, I decide the nights where I’m going to get home early (if there’s a night that he’s free). And also to plan ahead for quality time; if we’re gonna take a weekend off, if we’re gonna travel. I make sure I treat that as seriously in my schedule as I treat showing up to Digicel Foundation at 8:00 am every day. It’s that important.

Nirvana: How have you dealt with negativity from other women?

Krystal: I don’t deal with it. I don’t entertain it. It comes my way very often but I’ve learnt the “Art of the Swerve”- which is just to avoid it. There are people who are negative to me intentionally and those people I never confront because they never say it directly to me, it’s always word of mouth. There are those that are negative unintentionally, they’ve just grown into bringing bad vibes. If I find that those people are in my space, I’m very selective in interacting with them and when I do, I always bring positive energy so they have no choice but to adapt to that.

Nirvana: What is the most important message that you try to relay to young girls?

Krystal: Learn to grow past it; whatever the “it” is. We have to grow into knowledge and grow yourself out of your circumstances, whether it be your finances, a bad relationship, whatever. You’ll be stuck in that situation until you have learned whatever you need to learn to grow up out of it. The overall journey of human beings, in my understanding, is that we’re growing through life and you’ll never get to where you want to be unless you grow.

Nirvana: What is the best life decision you’ve ever made?

Krystal: I’ve talked about this often but it’s so important. To repay Student Loan, that was a very good life decision for me, financially. I did it at a time where Jamaica started toying around with this idea of a Credit Bureau, so your outstanding debt would affect your ability to borrow money for a house or car or business ventures. I was able to save my credits. It was what helped me to develop a level of discipline and character, in terms of delivering on my promises, even if it’s uncomfortable for me.

Nirvana: Would you say that you are content with your life at the moment?

Krystal: Yes, I’m very happy with my life right now. I’m grateful and motivated by my opportunities and everywhere there’s an opportunity to do better, to learn and to grow up, I’m excited by it. If ever I get to a place in life where I don’t want to get out of bed in the mornings, I’d have to reassess everything in my life. But right now, I’m very excited about life.

Nirvana: If you could have given your younger self any advice, what would it be?

Krystal: Do your time chart! I had to spend an extra semester at UWI because I didn’t have a time chart. I missed an exam that was only offered in the next school year, so I had to stay at UWI an extra year. I missed my graduation date, had to pay more tuition, everything was so frustrating at that time. I would’ve encouraged myself to do my timetabling and managing my time from early.

Nirvana: What do you think makes a successful woman leader?

Krystal: Firstly, I think it’s a woman that understands that she is there because she’s a woman. Leadership is not masculine; there’s a space for both male and female energy at the table. If a woman is in a position of power, it’s because they need your perspective, skills and experiences as a woman. Don’t ever try to “man up” when you’re in a position of leadership. You’re there because you are a woman.

Secondly, she will be successful when she realizes that partnership is what will get the job done. That means partnerships with other women. For the most part, women are always in positions of power, whether it is we hold a post of power or we lay beside a man that does. The minute we begin to leverage that, we become stronger and open the door for other powerful women.

Nirvana: What are you most proud of in your life?

Krystal: That I can walk the streets of anywhere in the world with my head held high. It’s challenging for women to have and to maintain good character and I’m very proud that my reputation is one that can speak for me. There are people who have never met me but have heard good things about me spoken by other people. The fact that I’m able to generate that organically makes me very proud. I think it’s a blessing from the universe.

Nirvana: Women are often regarded as superheroes. What is your superpower?

Krystal: Time-management. I’ve gotten very good at that since my days at UWI. There’s still some fine-tuning that needs to be done, like learning to leave my house early in the mornings. But I’m able to do a lot more than people my age, in the same 24 hours.

Nirvana: The best advice you’ve ever gotten?

Krystal: From my mom, she said: “shut up and listen”. It took my a while to learn that lesson and I’m learning and benefiting from that, still. Learning to listen, observe people around me, hear what people’s concerns are and have an appreciation for another person’s opinion. That has allowed me to be a very good debater. It takes listening, interpreting and analyzing to figure out what the issue is that needs addressing. That’s part of the reason too, why I’m never bothered when people say negative things about me. I’m always able to identify what the real issue is. I don’t get distracted by the sub-issue.

 

Keep up with Krystal by following her on her social media platforms. Click HERE to follow her on Twitter. To follow her Instagram feed Click Here.

 

Cover Photo: ARRC Media

Sheri-Kae McLeod

Writer and Editor. Communications student. Contact: Sherikaemc@gmail.com

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  1. April Sherwood says:

    This is very inspiring

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